self esteem determines our destiny. how happy we will be and the number of successes we will experience. A person with a high self esteem will dare to take risks and live life to the fullest because he is not afraid of failure. Failure is inevitable in life. We will fail, but a person with high self esteem sees his failures as lessons and opprtunities to improve and do better, instead of getting discouraged. Although taking more risks will lead to more failures, it will also lead to more success. u will never know if u do not take a chance. Since a person with a high self -esteem takes more risks, he is bound to experience more successes. This will lead to happiness and and a great sense of satisfaction as he is living his dream, doing things that really matter to him.
So how do u acquire such unshakable confidence?
Confidence is not measured by the number of successs we have . if confidence would be measured in this way, we would not be confident most of our time. how can we put our sense of self worth and confidence on external situations and outcomes which we have no control over?
Such confidence and high self esteem must come from genuine self acceptance. We must realise that everyone is special in their own unique way. we have different talents, personalities, interests, opinions ..etc.. there will be no one on earth or in the universe who will be a better version of u because everyone is different. There isn't even a comparision here. it saddens me that in our competitive society, people are always comparing. we compare our successes, number of material goods we have, our body figure, our grades, our boyfriends or girlfriends...we compare everything under the sun that can be compared...i really find this exhausting. why can't we just live life to the best of our ability and embrace our unique self. Does another person's successes or failures determine your happiness? I do not think so. Happiness is a choice. it is from within, not dependent on your success or failures. just like how we should not allow our succeess and failures to determine our self esteem, we should also then not base our happiness on external circumstances. why spend your whole life chasing after something so fleeting , so dependent on external circumstances that u have no control over?
self acceptance is simple. it's accepting yourself as who you. I know that this not an easy thing to achieve. Switch on the television and u will see an advertisements of a pretty ladies with the perfect figure and looks, subconsciously telling u that this is the way u should look like. With all these unhealthy influence, it's hard not to doubt oneself, then again if even we do not love ourselves who will? we must remember that nobody's perfect. in fact, nothing is perfect in this world so how can we expect ourselves to be perfect either. Have u even seen a scenery that is so beautiful, so captivating, that it takes your breath away? We do not think: why is the tree crooked? it should be straight...we accept nature as it is, we realise that there is beauty in its imperfection ( the tree will not look better if it is straight)...and this is the way we should view life, with an accepting attitude and a sense of gratitude for the things we have, for just being alive, to experience the wonders on earth and to experience different emotions (love, pain, excitement, anxiety....) count your blessings everyday, your family , friends, that u have delicious food u eat. Celebrate u. Ask yourself what do u like? what are u good at? what makes u special? this brings us to the topic of self awareness which is crucial in acquiring a high self esteem. By knowing who u are, u can then truly celebrate u.
self acceptance is appreciating, supporting and loving yourself as who u are NOW. we do not have to wait till we feel good enough to accept ourselves. HOwever, this self acceptance must not be used as an excuse for mediocre perfomance. we must always continue to strive to do the best in whatever we do.
self awareness is very important to building a higher self esteem. knowing more about yourself helps u set clear priorities and goals in life hence we can spend more time, effort and energy into things that really matter to us. this will lead to a huge sense of satisfaction because we are living our dream, fulfilling our inner desires and following our heart.
most importantly, self awareness let us know our strengths and weaknesses. we can then capitalise on our strengths and improve on our weaknesses by capitalizing on our strengths , we can develop a higher self esteem because we have found our inner talents and realise that we are special and good in our respective ways.
everyone is unique and different hence u should always listen to your heart and pursue the dream u have always wanted to pursue. to find what u truly want out of life, u must look within yourself for no one will know what u truly like and feel what u really feel but u and only u..
so how can we become more aware of ourselves? we can participate in activities that we find interesting such as playing the piano or taking a foreign language course. If u find yourself enjoying the activities, like being in a different world where time stands still, you would know that u have found your passion and purpose in life.
